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Escorting is the business of providing personal
services to a customer. Services might include
companionship, massage, a boy friend experience,
sexual fantasy or any number of other activities as defined
by the customer.
Sex with customers is detached and mechanical ---
simply fulfilling the customer's fantasy.
The customer takes care of all expenses, including an
escort fee. The escort takes care of the emotional part.
Online profiles provide the means of exchange. The
escort sells his services with pictures and text, both of
which set the tone and style of the escort allowing a
customer to choose an escort most aligned with his desires.
Most customers look for a normal, sophisticated, down
to earth profile in hopes of connecting with the correct
escort. Creating a working profile is important work, and
should a profile fail to deliver customers, or slow or stop
doing so, a creative escort updates and changes until he
again finds a workable model that draws in prospective
Regardless, there is a broad cross section of escorts for
customers to choose from, and a broad cross section of
customers for escorts to draw from. Multiple sites are
difficult to manage and because of subscription costs most
escorts opt for just one online presence.
Escorting doesn't come with a performance
manual leaving the entire effort open for learning and
interpretation. Starting out, new escorts have to learn on
their backs, so to speak. Each will likely get to a job, do
the job and find out there is no pay. They learn to see the
cash, even get half before beginning. Customers often give
a wrong address, or simply don't show up at the time and
Successful escorts learn to have the entire deal defined
up front before meeting the customer in person. Since
customers pay expenses those costs are paid at the time of
service such as restaurants, shows, clubs or cabs. Fees, or
larger costs such as airfare, are often split over the course
of the visit. A multi day customer pays daily.
Arriving to meet a customer in most cases begins with
the payment of cash. Escorts usually hold cash until
the service is complete, though often a friend or fellow
escort will drop by to whisk away the cash to a safe place;
particularly when a large sum is involved. Safety is a big
concern and fellow escorts watch their friends' location via
an iPhone app and keep in touch periodically.
Gifts can make up a large part of an escort's pay and
pushing a customer for cash versus gifts is a consistent
interplay. Average income is typically a few hundred
dollars per week plus gifts. Most want stability of at least
one thousand dollars per week from one client. Ultimately
an escort wants one or two long term customers though
the norm is many small jobs.
This business is more about luck than skills, at least
in the beginning. Luck brings the one or two generous
customers rather than having to exist on short-term sex
Bringing a customer home is out of the question and a
successful escort may spend two or three nights per week
with a customer at their own place or in a hotel.
The gold standard is a boyfriend experience that
includes moving into the customer's home and acting as
a boyfriend performing such duties as a paid escort would.
These relationships can work and do so most successfully
when the escort has his own room, defined responsibilities
and payment schedule.
Escorting can be challenging work often mixed with a
tinge of regret at doing it.
Most would give it all up for love.
All said they would move from a professional to personal
relationship in the event of finding the right guy. But that's
not likely while still being in the escort business.
Of all the experiences, the oddest event was a customer
who paid $400 to drive around for twenty minutes simply
to get acquainted. He was never heard from again.
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Sex work can be a nasty trap. The glow of its possibilities,
the promise of a new life in a new place and the reality of
that one generous escort customer can blind newcomers
to the reality of a difficult life in a tough business.
In the end guys get out because they never should have begun in
the first place, they can't make a go of it financially, or they do make
a go of it financially and become able to move on to other things.
Everything comes to an end and always for different reasons for
different people. Sometimes you just have to quit, and quit Brian did.
Brian is a lively fair-haired young man in his early twenties,
originally from central Iowa. Like others before him he met Tom
online and messaged back and forth for over a year before making
his decision to leave all he knew for the allure of Tom's promises.
Brian quickly found he could not fit into the model house
environment. Working with Tom for a few months made it readily
apparent that he was going nowhere fast. In those few months he
had earned about six hundred dollars shooting gay porn.
Tom set schedules that slid around by hours and even days. There
was no real way to plan escorting time within Tom's time demands,
and those demands often returned no income. There was no longer
Brian reached a point where gay porn acting and escorting simply
became no longer appealing. He found himself bored while filming,
frustrated with the wasted time, having to reshoot because of other
porn actors who could not get into the scene.
After several months of escorting he found mostly short-term
customers who wanted to pay little for usually seedy activity that
took more from Brian than he received in pay. Webcam modeling
was too tedious, bringing real world scheduling and working hours
at a time when he didn't want either.
Not deterred by where he found himself in his new life Brian was
determined to make a go of it. Luck held and he met the one very
generous customer. Though Tom portrays escorting as going to be
a big disappointment, escorting gave Brian the resources to move
on. The real money is in escorting, if one happens upon the right
customer. His generous customer pays him well, allowing him to
make the next step on his list of goals.
Coming to a life change with goals in mind certainly helps in
achieving them. Even when things don't work out as originally
planned Brian found it easier to adjust his goals than if he had not
had them at all.
Regret at his choices in life and occupation carry some weight
for Brian; one being that he has become numb to sex as a result of
forcing attraction with customers.
The act has become purely mechanical. Without a current
boyfriend or significant other Brian doesn't know if, though he
fears, he may find difficulty in getting close to someone as a result
of his escorting.
His next partner will be more difficult than his previous because
of his new numb emotionless response to another's interest. Clearly
it has created a distance between him and other people, a reserve in
him that is quickly communicated. On meeting someone new a wall
goes up to keep a focus on his goals at the expense of doing the work
to create a new and growing relationship.
With a slow look away, Brian admitted that if that new person
chased him he would look back, slow down and allow him to catch
up. He wants to learn to loosen up and allow himself to be enjoyable
while at the same time being productive.
Losing the ability to love is a heavy price to pay for earning a
QUITTING THE BUSINESS
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